tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post2676746157018686447..comments2023-05-18T03:00:50.326-07:00Comments on Poetry of Flesh: Poetry of Fleshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00871932715491205605noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-54895779799417375342010-06-01T10:47:49.270-07:002010-06-01T10:47:49.270-07:00mr brodribb, why do you have to be so damn logical...mr brodribb, why do you have to be so damn logical? i was enjoying their fairytale. sigh. that IS a good point. a marriage means you'll both change, and you either stick it out (short of the Terrible - rape or non-consensual beatings) or you bail at the first, second or tenth sign of disappointment. all of which will happen. but maybe you broke up out of uncertainty, and the marriage will help firm the commitment up for you both. i still perch on the romantic side. rah rah love!sistasagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01063405753195572799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-65547823749309928632010-06-01T09:29:53.653-07:002010-06-01T09:29:53.653-07:00I have posted my very first Blog to share a few wo...I have posted my very first Blog to share a few words. GV8GV8 SIRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17596833072331467770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-46920945219487024812010-06-01T08:33:29.694-07:002010-06-01T08:33:29.694-07:00I agree with the other noters. I sort of jolted a...I agree with the other noters. I sort of jolted at your mention of adoration. At some point, accepting the humanity and imperfections of your mate is required for any long-term relationship. Further, you're looking for someone dominant, someone smarter than you who you can trust as your proxy in all things. Good luck with that one, hon. You're too fucking smart for that. The problem isn't with the guys you're finding, the problem is with you allowing *yourself* to be human and let down the guard for other people you consider human and fallible.<br /><br />GV8 is not a god. He's a man who projects everything you're looking for, but underneath, he's still a man. You've fallen for his projection, but I believe that the man underneath knows he'd ultimately disappoint you. How can he not? You love a god. A figment of things he wants you to believe and things you willingly believe.<br /><br />But here's the kicker...you judge him for being human (changing his mind)...but it's only in accepting that he's human that you guys have a chance for anything more than more drama.Sharonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12445558988316054957noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-57748541913177051502010-06-01T04:33:32.264-07:002010-06-01T04:33:32.264-07:00Wish I could say something supportive or make atte...Wish I could say something supportive or make attempts at EBM related witty banter, but am going through a major depressive episode and can't formulate thoughts into words (or that many coherent thoughts, either).<br /><br />Still here, still following, still rooting.Nepenthehttp://www.weltfunk.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-58890403581353196792010-05-31T18:58:36.704-07:002010-05-31T18:58:36.704-07:00There's been a lot of really great comments re...There's been a lot of really great comments re: the GV8 situation, but I feel a lot of us have been distracted by side issues and none of us have directly addressed the elephant in the room.<br /><br />Regardless of your feelings on marriage, kids, commitment, love, great sex, compatibility, trust, pedestaling, dominance, whether people can change, etc...<br /><br />How long have you two known each other and in that time how many times have you gone through this cycle of break-up and make-up?<br /><br />That's where I would start.Dan_Brodribbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14026291343082142533noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-6130397236161460362010-05-30T17:02:49.112-07:002010-05-30T17:02:49.112-07:00does he know what he's doing? probably not. wh...does he know what he's doing? probably not. who would? but is he willing to follow through, that's a tasty question. <br /><br />the queen told me today that part of him never wants to be in a relationship, part of him regularly feels ambivalent toward it. and this from a guy who wants a partner and a family. he also just wants to fuck and run. we all have minds that battle themselves - unless we've decided to pretend we only feel one way, and sell out the rest of ourselves. <br /><br />i guess this is my dire romanticism coming out - embracing the unknown is the closest to reality we can get, and it drives us crazy. <br /><br />you can do it, v.sistasagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01063405753195572799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-7319211442178423242010-05-30T13:23:28.296-07:002010-05-30T13:23:28.296-07:00I've been desperately rooting for you and GV8 ...I've been desperately rooting for you and GV8 since last year. There has to be light at the end of the tunnel. The frenzy of your last posts makes me think of the whispered rhythms of this song: http://www.youtube.com/v/J-_ZasUeqSA&hl=en_US&fs=1&rel=0nuts4fruitshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00387501372753353244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-1446426780515750072010-05-30T07:35:22.185-07:002010-05-30T07:35:22.185-07:00My personal opinion based on what I've read ab...My personal opinion based on what I've read about him, is that he is only happy when he's in control. It seems that the flavor of his game was to control your mind all along. It can be fun, being that we're submissive in the bedroom...and I see the appeal... but he isn't the kind of person that I'd want in control of my life. If you can't trust him, there's a reason. Don't question your instincts. I've questioned mine one too many times and gone back on decisions based on guilt or second-guessing my instincts and it was the wrong choice every time. When you are surrounded by men who seem to have your best interest at heart (PD, Roman, Maurice) why waste time when you already read this book? You know how it ends. The thing is, it can be fun and fabulous to date someone like this... no question about it... but I don't think he's going to give you all that you want and need for long term. If you are expecting him to change, then you don't want him for who he really is... and that alone is a reason to move on. Believe me, I have loved men to the ends of the Earth and back and swore that I would NEVER find anyone else to love me like that.. or I'd never find anyone who made me feel that way... I was wrong. You're fooling yourself if you think you can't or won't find anyone to meet your every need...someone who you won't need to change in order to really make you happy. It's worth the wait.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-84113214066188090382010-05-30T04:54:37.566-07:002010-05-30T04:54:37.566-07:00Idolising your partner is important, otherwise why...Idolising your partner is important, otherwise why bother? I can go and pick up a woman anywhere and it was even easier in other places I have lived such as South America or Asia.<br /><br />I am rather surprised at how conventional you are Poetry. The whole focus on children and monogamy, whilst completely understandable, (and personally something I agree with), is rather at odds with the general tone of your blog.Tonihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01388697157749171410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-8362673934918977542010-05-30T02:19:47.905-07:002010-05-30T02:19:47.905-07:00Okay, since everybody seems to be doing it. I don&...Okay, since everybody seems to be doing it. I don't know you, and you don't know me, and I haven't been asked to but in, so if this is rude and annoying, please disregard this post. But, about what has been lost:<br /><br />Adoration and worship has no place in a long term relationship, in my experience it always gives in, eventually.<br /><br />If you, or he, needs your constant idolization of him to keep you two together, it's probably not a healthy relationship.<br /><br />Trust, on the other hand.. kind of important in these situations.Mariannehttp://www.facebook.com/marigunnoreply@blogger.com