tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post8061197541886410415..comments2023-05-18T03:00:50.326-07:00Comments on Poetry of Flesh: One, two, three, branch.Poetry of Fleshhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00871932715491205605noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-86446452643031166442010-05-14T01:00:06.363-07:002010-05-14T01:00:06.363-07:00More reserves than women, I'm pretty sure. :P
...More reserves than women, I'm pretty sure. :P<br /><br />Frankly, I'm not sure how long I've been reading, but long enough to see a lot of similarities that help me analyse my own thoughts as well as what might have been going on in hers.<br /><br />It's not so much being wrong that's the issue, more like being right. I KNEW what was going on, I picked up the cues, but just didn't want to believe it because she was basically everything I had ever dreamed of (gorgeous and fit geek girl with a quick with and a warped sense of humour, open-minded and in touch with her sexuality). It's not so much my intuition that's in question, more like my ability to blind myself to it when it's telling me everything's gone wrong in the worst possible way. Now I'm just wondering how the hell can I avoid this in the future, apart from starting, say, WoW and becoming a fatbeard hermit :P<br /><br />She just told me that she's moving out of town and buying a house with her fiance. Or has already bought, to be exact. Going to be working from the home office most days, which should be a blessing as we're going to see each other a lot less, but probably isn't since I can't mentally prepare for when she is and isn't going to be around. And after the way(s) she's hurt me, I need that kind of preparation to get my armour back on.<br /><br />Oh yeah, she has issues, and a lot of them have apparently passed over to me, now.Nepenthehttp://www.weltfunk.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-41033974605523088442010-05-12T22:09:12.457-07:002010-05-12T22:09:12.457-07:00Nepenthe,
Your girl sounds very... issueful, I...Nepenthe,<br /><br />Your girl sounds very... issueful, I'm going to say. This, fortunately, is just one of my friends, so I don't have to worry about having feelings for him or the like.<br /><br />I don't know how long you've been reading, but I've felt very similar about GV8, regarding the doubting of self, doubting of intuition. It's a really hard thing to admit you were or could be wrong. Your entire judgment ability is now under strict scrutiny, never quite trusting your feelings.<br /><br />You've been in a few women? I'm shocked. :P<br /><br />Savage,<br /><br />I facepalm in the direction of that joke.<br /><br />I'm glad you like the candidness. It's hard, sometimes, but... it's gotta be done.<br /><br />And, of course we'd hang out. You need to learn how to eat an artichoke properly, after all.<br /><br />SDaedalus,<br /><br />The not telling me about the relationship was the dealbreaker for him. The kid thing... was just another thing. If the relationship thing hadn't happened, I would've taken the news about the kid without issue, just a little disappointment in his communication ability.<br /><br />Luckily for me, I'm not interested in him romantically. Well, anymore. Haven't been since the relationship thing.<br /><br />And I'm not expecting to meet him any time soon. He didn't return my phone call, so I have a feeling my reactions chased him off.<br /><br />The sporadic communications are mostly attributed to the kid, which is totally understandable. I wish I had known, so I wouldn't have felt like he was flaking on me all the time.<br /><br />I will forgive you for your misspelling, as the fertility joke was so great.<br /><br />Chic Noir,<br /><br />Looks like you need to find yourself a loving man who is very devoted to his nieces and nephews, huh?Poetry of Fleshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00871932715491205605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-77851395151937180212010-05-11T19:44:41.005-07:002010-05-11T19:44:41.005-07:00I like men who love children although I don't ...I like men who love children although I don't want any myself. Well, I'm weird so...Chic Noirhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02658431620319643962noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-47156910532052745122010-05-07T11:18:08.989-07:002010-05-07T11:18:08.989-07:00Please forgive the misspelling of "attracting...Please forgive the misspelling of "attracting" above.SDaedalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12200162495362442702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-10273805942282941242010-05-07T11:17:09.987-07:002010-05-07T11:17:09.987-07:00Poetry
So frustrating, not knowing what is truth ...Poetry<br /><br />So frustrating, not knowing what is truth and what is fiction, always having to read between the lines, the potential for time-wasting & fruitless speculation is truly appalling. I don't think it's possible to build a romantic relationship unless the other person is truthful. This does not necessarily mean telling everything about themselves right way, but at least disclosing it if the subject comes up.<br /><br />Funnily enough, I don't see failing to tell you about his child as being as bad as failing to tell you that he was in another relationship. A relevant consideration in relation to the child (but not in relation to the other relationship, where in my view he had a duty to disclose) would be whether or not he lied outright, or simply failed to disclose.<br /><br />It sounds like he's interested in you, though, otherwise why fear that you would be put off by the fact he had a child? It also sounds like you were interested in him. But I agree that his elusiveness and the fact that he does not tell the truth sounds like a bit of a deal-breaker. Do you really want another head-wrecker (like me, you seem to have a knack of atrracting them)? This is the dilemma.<br /><br />Why haven't you met him in person yet anyway? This is worse than a Victorian epistolary courtship. I think you should meet up with him. If you do not feel comfortable meeting him, or if he does not feel comfortable meeting you, clearly things are going to go nowhere romantically. You will then be faced with the choice of whether or not to wind down the friendship or keep it strictly platonic. <br /><br />PS: Look on the bright side. At least he's fertile. That is a joke by the way. I think it would be a bit premature to start planning babies with a man you've never actually met in person.<br /><br />PPS: I wonder whether or not the sporadic nature of his communications could be explained by the shared custody issue?SDaedalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12200162495362442702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-32167954512751483972010-05-07T04:08:01.403-07:002010-05-07T04:08:01.403-07:00"Something has got to stop the flow." Wo..."Something has got to stop the flow." Would that be a pad or an insert?<br /><br />One of the things I love about your blog is how candid you are with your life. While I don't have a genuine comment other than a smidge of comedy I love coming back here for more.<br /><br />If I lived with-in 100 miles of you I'd probably have asked you out by now (blogland women be damned!) whether or not it lead to anywhere other than friends is immaterial to me....<br />I have no clue why I just said that but I felt it needed to be said....The Savagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13743715158080363222noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3186930289760870447.post-9222458527210536582010-05-07T01:09:07.619-07:002010-05-07T01:09:07.619-07:00The "honesty" of a strictly controlled i...The "honesty" of a strictly controlled information flow, lies of omission and actual flat-out in-your-face lies all seem eerily familiar, albeit in the reversed gender situation. In fact, the whole thing seems frighteningly close.<br /><br />I honestly can't decide if she lied because the thought the lies would hurt less, or if she couldn't be honest to me, or herself. The fact that I believed her means that in addition to her, I can't trust myself either - because, (not even that) deep inside, I knew some things were not true. Now I'm left gasping, trying to figure out what was and what wasn't. And in the case of all (exceptionally intelligent) women, you're always left wondering how much they just know how to push your particular buttons... to further that hidden agenda.<br /><br />It's sick that you can be so in touch with somebody that you basically finish each other's sentences, yet they can't just drop their protections. <br /><br />Oh, and women maintain reserves too. I know, I've been in a few. :)Nepenthehttp://www.weltfunk.netnoreply@blogger.com