Watched a good friend of mine tear into her boyfriend at a birthday party last night. Some mess of PMS, stress, and external influence by another male (thatI will go more indepth on at a later date) led this hour-plus long bitch-rampage.
I could not diffuse the situation like I had done in the past, my usual tricks were worthless. I'm not a magician.
So I left.
I know there is a chunk of my readers that believe that people should be treated differently based on their sex. And that some people, based on their sex, are allowed to engage in behaviors the other half of the population is not.
If you are going to engage in poor behavior and expect it to be socially acceptable and excusable because of your sex, note that it is likely that others will engage in different treatment of you due to your sex.
What she did last night, as much as I care for her, was inexcusable behavior for anyone, male or female.
Tonight I'm going to sit her down, try to get to the root of her increasingly aggressive and disrespectful behavior towards someone she says she loves so much, and we'll see what happens. Might be short a friend tomorrow.
Meddling behavior? I know. But I would expect her to sit me down and smack the shit out of me if I was acting as she was. It's an unspoken reality pact: "You're being a bitch. Knock it off."
About Me
- Poetry of Flesh
- Los Angeles, CA, United States
- Love Sonnet XI
Pablo Neruda
I crave your mouth, your voice, your hair.
Silent and starving, I prowl through the streets.
Bread does not nourish me, dawn disrupts me,
all day I hunt for the liquid measure of your steps.
I hunger for your sleek laugh,
your hands the color of a savage harvest,
hunger for the pale stones of your fingernails,
I want to eat your skin like a whole almond.
I want to eat the sunbeam flaring in your lovely body,
the sovereign nose of your arrogant face,
I want to eat the fleeting shade of your lashes,
and I pace around hungry, sniffing the twilight,
hunting for you, for your hot heart,
like a puma in the barrens of Quitratue.
"If you are going to engage in poor behavior and expect it to be socially acceptable and excusable because of your sex, note that it is likely that others will engage in different treatment of you due to your sex".
ReplyDeleteFinally a woman who understands the reality of life. Even the craziest of my girlfriends and I have had a few real examples would never dream of embarrassing both herself and me in public. Even in private they would be careful what they say. I have never hit a girl, apart from a few occasions when I have had to, like for example when one tried to shoot me and another who tried to cut my penis off.
I think you are doing the right thing when a girl behaves like that it is only going to get worse. If she is your friend you have a responsibility to at least find out why. Sorry if you lose a friend over this.
You have had the oddest life, sir. You keep letting these little tidbits drop and I'm left wanting more.
ReplyDeleteIt appears as though she has cooled down. We'll see what is going on.